Sometimes we wish we didn’t, other times we wish we did. We
sometimes hope we could take back what we said, other times we regret not
saying, we often wish we had said it differently. But the truth is it really doesn’t
matter. Nothing we’ve said can be unsaid, and no action taken can be unacted. It’s
just how life is, time past cannot be rewound. So we’ll just have to live with
it? Our mis-acted actions, and mis-placed and mis-said word.
Well sometimes, life allows you make or try to make
remedies, do the right thing, say the right words, but one thing it won’t do is
give you a guarantee. As there is no clause that states that you can take back
what you did if the results are unsatisfactory.
But really does any of it really matter? Do we truly care
that we said or did what the other person perceived as wrong? In my opinion;
which no one asked, I don’t think we care. We care in a way but the affection
is directed inward and not towards the offended. The reason you apologise to
anyone is not just because you hurt the person’s feelings, it’s because you
feel bad.
At this point I applaud the “Arrogant” lot who do not
apologise unless they actually believe they were wrong. If you were considering
the recipient of your words and actions in the first instance you would not
have said or acted. It was, is and would always be about you. The wrong or tort
was about you, and the attempt at correction is still about you. That is you
feel sorry rather awful for being the reason for someone else’s hurt so you try
to make the person feel better so that you can in effect sleep well at night.
Doesn’t it make more sense to do as you will and when it’s
done don’t bother with it? If you are wrong deal with it. Guess what? That space
in time has gone, FOREVER. Use the next and the next and the one after the next
to do right.
Wishing you didn’t do or didn’t say doesn’t mean
anything. If you ask me, don’t bother apologising, because, it’s just as
selfish as the initial tort.
4 comments:
Ȋ̝̊̅ get wht Ūя̲̅ saying but Ūя̲̅ nt making any sense. If U̶̲̥̅̊ feel bad FO̶̲̥̅̊Я̩̥̊ hurting someone, that means U̶̲̥̅̊ care enough a̷̷̴̐͠bout them †̥o consider their happiness. If U̶̲̥̅̊ feel better when someone else is happy, where'§ ₫ selfishness therein?
To be selfish is to be concerned primarily with one's own interests regardless of others at a particular point in time. So what's the point of "feeling better when someone else is happy" when moments ago you felt good about hurting the person? The mere act of hurting then apologising just to make the person feel better and not because you've realised that what you did was wrong, is selfish.
Itz more about the reaction than the Action.if u don't matter,nothing you say will matter.A Soft answer turns away Wrath.
all i hear and see from this is arrogance and unnecessary emphasized self worth. some people deserve a good verbal beat down, while there are times you say things you don't mean when you were angry and a good and sincere apology would help cast away the hate that was created. yes word and deeds when said or done cannot be undone but words said afterwards can and will change the perception of what the recipient of the hurt had towards the giver. This was probably written out of anger...when you get offended 70 x 7?
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