When I do apologise?

So how do I know when an apology is true? How do you know that I actually wish I didn’t?

Over time, I’ve realised that our lives are full of words and 95% of the time we decide to use them untruthfully. Ok so maybe 95% is an exaggeration for some, but you know what I mean. Anyway, so how do you believe or determine that the greatly expected, anticipated and well deserved apology is honest? How do we know that when people say something, they don’t mean something else.

Like

I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you – “Actually I did, but I did not expect all this drama, it’s not good for my reputation”

I take back what I said – “As if that was possible, sucker, I meant every word”

Please forgive me – “Hmm, go to hell”

OR                            

I’m sorry. I don’t know what came over me, I can’t believe I did that, I didn’t mean to. I thought I was protecting you, I did not mean to hurt you. – “Yeah right, whatever. Get over it. Besides if you believe that, you’ll believe anything like ice cream is made out of ice”

I think with the way people try to ‘unsay’ and ‘undo’ stuff that they meant to with “I’m sorry” I have lost some faith in friendship, more in the spoken word and almost completely in the phrase and in apologies.

So here’s the deal, I know some are true, and other will never be, but instead of finding the apology, you are better off not offending. Since there are others like me, those losing faith in apologies, you may have only the first trial to do it good, and get it right, but if nothing, do it honest.