Hi! So I’m introducing me. My name is Miss Forgetting Forgetful Forgetter. I have a feeling I can guess what you are thinking, but I am not dumb. As in I do not forget what I learn in school or what I am supposed to do at work. I still have not forgotten how to cook or how to drive or even how to bath a baby and change soiled diapers. So stop thinking negative, I am smart, extremely smart; which is why I choose to forget.
I often forget not to talk to certain people. In other words I do not remember to keep ‘malice’ with people. I think keeping malice makes sense to certain people but I have not been able to understand the concept. I thought the point of a fight was to let the other person know how you feel and why what they have done is not acceptable. So how do you accomplish that without talking, or passing notes? I am not big on silent messages and sign language; I do not even know how to communicate that way, so I would rather talk to you.
There is a lot to say to people every day and wit my forgetfulness it is a lot of hard work for me to remember that I am not talking to someone.
As forgetful as I am, there are certain times I have to work hard at forgetting. I hate to forget the important things people do in my life but sometimes these people are just mean. Isn’t it very unfair that I decide to make sure that I do not forget what people do for the sake of a good relationship and they decide to do the things that hurt? Over time I have learned that it is easier to forget than not keep remembering.
Ok so here is how it works for me; if I forget, I still have my friend, I do not have to remind myself that I am mad at someone, I am generally happier and nobody is getting transferred negative energy. If I do not forget, I get mad every time I remember what happened, when I hear the person’s name, see the person or am reminded about the person, need to remember not to be nice to the person, and a whole lot of rubbish that comes with remembering negative stuff. Don’t get me wrong, it is important to learn from these extreme experiences with people, but I think life is too short to keep all of these in your head.
In my bid to be a true ambassador of the world I like to learn from everything around me. So I learned to forget from children. Five year old Toyin is mad, extremely mad at his mum. First of all she woke him up this morning just when he was about to be given a bowl of chocolate ice cream in his dream and insists that he goes to school. The bath wasn’t so bad, neither was the breakfast, but then she takes him to the same school that has the class with all those other noisy kids, and packs him lunch with a healthy drink. The most amazing thing is that by the close of school, when little Toyin sees his mum waiting outside, he is the happiest child in existence. Never mind about all the things she did, he’s happy that she’s here to get him.
Seriously, it makes sense to learn to forget. There is some form of bliss that comes with forgetting how mad someone hurt you, or how much you would love to kill the girl next door. I personally think it comes with less stress. But most importantly life is shorter than we would love it to be, so what is the point of holding on to the negatives. Besides as you grow older you have more things to think about, so why not try to forget the negative events.
In other words learn to be like me. You have my permission to pick and use one of my names. But if you would not be like me, at least learnt to forget the things that don't count. People do not live forever.
Wishing you all the bliss that comes from forgetting,
Miss Forgetting Forgetful Forgetter
P.S.
I hope it was nice meeting me.
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